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Divorces can be ugly.
They can also be amicable. Divorcing without kids is obviously easier, but
regardless of what your family situation is like, it can get messy unless you
are careful. A clean break is best for your sake and for your relationship. It
will take a long time to completely untangle your lives. You will have mutual
friends, mutual habits, and so on, and if you have kids, you will never truly
see the last of each other, no matter how much you wish for it.
That is why it is
important to go into a divorce with as level head as possible. To help, you
will want to follow this guide.
Areas a Divorce Will Need to Focus On
First things first,
it’s important to know the three pillars of divorce. These are the areas that
you are going to have to negotiate and knowing them beforehand can help keep
any surprises from appearing during your divorce:
1. Division of Assets
Financials, assets
like cars, homes, furniture, and the like, and of course, investments must all
be divided. Unless there is a prenup, a fair split of assets can take time to
deduce, and it’s rarely right down the middle. One party might agree to take
the house in exchange for the investments, for example. Someone might want the
car over the furniture. It’s important for this process to be calm so that a
fair resolution can be found.
2. Child Custody and Visitation Rights
If you have children,
then custody and visitation rights will need to be agreed upon. If you can both
work together and co-parent, this will go by much easier, but if the
reason for the divorce affects one party’s ability to take care of themselves
or the children, it can get messy.
3. Alimony and Child Support
Alimony and child
support will also have to be agreed upon. This could be a joint account you pay
into that you both can use to provide for the kids, or it could be a monthly
amount paid to one party.
These areas can touch
on nerves and make an amicable divorce into a messy one very quickly. That is
why you need divorce attorneys from Charleston Law
to help mediate the divorce and provide both parties with a settlement
agreement they both agree with.
Tips to Successfully Managing a Divorce
To successfully manage
a divorce, you will want to:
·
Try to
Decide with a Level Head
·
Immediately
hire a Lawyer to Mediate
·
Attend
Conflict Resolution Counselling
Conflict resolution counseling can be very healthy for your relationship, as
it will give you the tools to help communicate and come to an understanding.
It’s useful for negotiating with a level head, and essential if you are
co-parenting your children.
Tips for Divorcing with Kids
It’s important to be partners when parenting your children. Don’t sugar
coat it, be honest with them. If they see you get along, they’ll want you back
together if you aren’t clear that you work better separated than apart.
If you fight, then go
to counseling together so that you can work through the hurt and pain from your
marriage and parent together in peace. Consider your relationship like a
working relationship, with your job be to raise your children in a loving,
stable home.