Sensitive Topic Permanent Memorials on Streets and Highways
This topic is very sensitive but I felt like I need to write about it. It has been on my mind for so long when I leave my home and drive. I live in New York in one of the boroughs and it is very busy no matter what time of day it is. Traffic all the time and everywhere. I have also done a lot of research on this subject and it is all throughout the United States.
I am concerned about the memorials that are put on our streets, highways where a child or adult has passed away. They are called "MakeShift Memorials" where Family members put up signs, flowers, pictures, big crosses of where the person was most likely hit by a car. It hurts so much to see this. It makes me think as I drive what happened? How is the family? Was it a drunk driver? Was it a person driving to fast? Was it the person who passed away fault?
Family members continue to put up something new each week, monthly or on a special occasion. Some places there are big photos of the person that passed with planted flowers, big crosses, decorations, birthday signs etc.
My opinion on this subject goes back and forth. I of course hurt for the family that has lost a loved one. I feel at times the memorial should be where the person is resting in peace (cemetery) or cremation. I feel sometimes memorials should not be two blocks from my home on a corner that I pass each day. It makes me sad. At the same time I think about the family and the person that has died. How would I feel if I lost a loved one in a car accident at that location? Would I want to put up and keep up a memorial at that location.? I do not have the answer to my own questions.
As I read an article from a family member of their sister that was in a car accident this is what they said,
"It's very sad, because at the end of the day for people like myself who have lost someone to a road crash, [we] need to be able to return to the spot where their loved one took their last breath, had their last thought and lived their last moments," she said.
This breaks my heart for the family after I read this article.
I am not speaking of a memorial that are put up for a month or few months, days for someone that a horrid accident happened, or a terrorist attack. I am concerned about the memorials that become permanent. I have seen some along side the highway that have become so big it is a shrine. I had asked my family their opinions and they had no opinions because they said they really never paid attention to it. I believe everyone is different and of course reacts different.
Most of the land is small blue belts where I live and city property. This is where I see the memorial sites. It does become a distraction to me and to others its as if they do not even see it or think about it. As I sit, think and write I do have opinions and worries but at the same time do not have any answers as to how I truly feel.
I know this is a very difficult subject. I would love to hear your opinions on how you feel and think. I also would like to know if this is in your town, city, is it overwhelming?